Joel Olsteens brother?

The pastor of High Point Church in Arlington, Texas is Joel Olsteens brother. This man refused to have the funeral service of a US Navy veteran based on his uality. When family pictured arrived the day before the service, it showed the two men sitting on a sofa.....not holding each other, or touching, just sitting. This was used as the reason for cancelling the service a mere 24 hrs before the service. Is this fair? Is this the 'christian way"?